Whether you have been with your partner for months, years, or decades, you may feel as though you are drifting apart. Maybe you used to talk about everything, but now you only seem to discuss the dishes. You might feel as though you take on the majority of household responsibilities while your partner takes your efforts for granted. Maybe little things frequently build up into big arguments, and you feel as though you are never really heard. You might feel lonely, even when you are in the same room as your partner. Perhaps your partner seems to pay more attention to his or her TV, phone, or computer than to you. You may wonder why you bother going home after work. Maybe your partner has violated your trust, and you aren’t sure how to feel safe and secure in your relationship again. You might just want to feel appreciated and special again.
Marriage and Couples Therapy can help you rediscover the often under appreciated but powerful qualities that brought you together in the first place. Would I benefit from Marriage Counseling or Couples Therapy? If you answer yes to at least five of the following questions, you may benefit from couples therapy or marriage counseling.
Have I lost genuine curiosity about my partner?
Do I no longer ask them about their day?
Do I no longer think my partner is amazing?
Have I forgotten what attracted us and brought us together?
Is what brought us together no longer meaningful or fulfilling?
When I face problems, big and small, do I call or talk to someone other than my partner on a consistent basis?
When my partner makes a mistake, do I no longer give them the benefit of the doubt?
Do I find myself constantly judging my spouse?
Do I no longer overlook my partner’s shortcomings?
Do I feel like I am getting the raw deal out of this relationship?
Am I keeping score about who does what?
Am I on edge or am I annoyed when my partner enters the room?
Do I feel like I can never get a word in when my partner speaks to me?
Is my partner not interested in what I have to say?
When I try and approach my partner for intimacy am I consistently rejected?